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Tammy Wise2017-12-18 05:15:122017-12-18 12:34:18Accepting Help with GraceWelcome to the BodyLogos blog. Here’s where you’ll get your dose of alignment and balance with grace. (Sign up here to join 1,000 other blog subscribers.)
Redefining Strength
I want to change our perception of strength. Strength is the ability to meet resistance and influence an outcome without compromising ourselves. And we already have it.
Strength is not an attribute; it’s a state of being. Gladiators, bodybuilders, and football players demonstrate strength through brute force, sheer willpower, muscle mass, and relentless pursuit. But we’re also quick to identify dancers and martial artists as strong. Their medium taps into a sense of vulnerability, balance, alignment, controlled power, and grace—but no one can deny their strength. Strength may look different on each of us, but it is an inherent part of who we are.
You are not weak by nature; you are stronger than you think. Your strength is not something you need to kill yourself to gain—it is already within you, waiting to be excavated. The key is to stop chasing something you already have and tap into it, so you can manifest that strength in your everyday life.
Because we don’t think we’re strong, we approach resistance with the idea that we’re not enough. We throw everything we have at it and push past our physical, mental, and emotional limitations. We see strength as domination, but it’s not.
When you learn to listen to your body’s divine wisdom, you cultivate a sense of where your body is developing tension instead of standing in its strength. You end the vicious cycle of unrealistic expectations, injury, and self-criticism and learn how to consciously embrace responsible growth. You stop compartmentalizing your strength into emotional, physical, and mental pieces and operate from the strength of your being at all times.
You learn how to align yourself with gravity—instead of working against it—so you can channel your strength to meet life’s resistance. As you meet resistance with equal parts power and alignment, you transform tension into strength
As in the sword dance above, the power lies in bringing just the right amount of force—not too little and not too much. By meeting the sword’s weight, I meet gravity. I am tapped into a larger source of energy, free of tension, and discover a strength that is wholly and uniquely mine.
About Tammy Wise
A Love Letter’s Passage
by Tammy WiseLove letters are written to encapsulate and celebrate a moment in time, and in hope of a shared, reciprocal, experience. Being thanked for a love letter’s kind words, although polite, does not communicate any reciprocal feelings. But, at least, it lets you know that you’ve been heard.
When a love letter response leaves us feeling flat, we generally wonder if we’re barking up the wrong tree? We question, “should I stay or should I go now?” Maybe we even consider further conversations, but who likes to ask for, beg for, or whine for love?!
Love is either a shared experience or a life experience.
And, when the response-that-feels-flat comes from mom, there’s no place else to go.
But, here lyes the gift of this life experience.
I got to sit in an important truth… love is not my mom’s currency.
I’ve spent my life chasing mom’s affection, acceptance, attention… to feel love and belonging. But, mom was busy collecting affection, acceptance, attention… to feel beloved and validated.
Belonging is a shared experience.
Validation is an autonomous experience.
This distinction reframed my whole understanding of our relationship!
Mom has always used her artistic gifts to share her worth in the world, and she taught me to do the same. I thanked her for this in my love letter, feeling incredibly lucky to have learned so young that my natural gifts could be valuable.
But, this is how mom and I differ…
• When she receives praise for her art, she feels validated… beloved.
• When there’s an opportunity to give praise, she feels threatened.
• When I receive praise for my art, I feel belonging… loved.
• When there’s an opportunity to give praise, I feel connected.
All these years I kept trying to win her love by getting better at the things she taught me. But finally, by witnessing her polite, emotionally void response, around the expression of my love, I see that my efforts to be better at the things she taught me felt threatening to her, rather than loving her.
She’s a lone wolf, while I want to be part of a pack.
To her, my love letter was validation of HER worth, not an honoring of OUR relationship.
The way to love a lone wolf is to keep your eyes on them, love yourself in the way you want to be loved by them, and realize their autonomy is their survival. It’s not personal.
The way to be loved by a lone wolf is understand that the affection, acceptance and attention you give them unconditionally, curates within your self the confidence, pride and love you thought you needed from them.
The original sentiment of a love letter is a beginning. How it is received sheds light on the mystery between two people and their inner dynamics. Love’s passage is a full circle between two people.
A quiet chamber of my heart is now saying:
It’s not personal mom, but I don’t need your affection, acceptance, attention… to feel love and belonging anymore.
You’ve taught me to love myself.
Leave a comment, if you can relate.