We all want to be chosen, but choosing ourselves can be riddled with judgment and uncertainty.
We get a break from this internal scrutiny when someone else approves of us. This distraction offers belonging… but WITH CONDITIONS.
How do you know when self-love overrides the habit of satisfying outside expectations to get love from others?
You feel Peaceful belonging.
From the start, I was a bouncy baby. I found being in my body’s movement and strength a refuge. It was a place where I felt like my own person; and a place I could improve myself with practice and discipline. So, what I didn’t have yet, I could develop. Dance and athletics offered me peaceful belonging WITHOUT CONDITIONS.
How does peaceful belonging show up in your life naturally?
Infuse that place into other aspects of living and you up-level your life!
I didn’t experience delight in belonging with family relationships or any intellectual study, until I was introduced to Tao Philosophy. So, it was clear that, peaceful belonging came from a small niche of interests.
Later in life, when the tension of competing for Broadway dance jobs started to put CONDITIONS on my physical refuge, and I let the FEAR of not being good enough chip away at trusting my personal safe place, I entered Tao seminary for 4-years.
What I learned there was, delight is a discipline; and self-love is choosing delight. The discipline of delight leads to self-love.
That understanding continues to inspire me to share my BodyLogos Method as the mind body strength training practice that helps you let go of needing outside validation and open up to loving yourself.
Tao see’s our Original Natures––essential selves––as Nature’s way to establish wholeness. Each of us is appreciated as a spoke in the wheel of life. What delight’s you in you, is what makes you love you, because it’s what the world needs from you to flourish.
There are 3 requirements to activate self-love:
- Exercise your mind toward who you want to be.
- Become aware of your emotions with curiosity, not judgement.
- And, energize your body’s strength.
Exploring what delights you in these daily practices will reclaim the self-love you were born with. And, they’re all integrated in the BodyLogos Practice.
Self-Love is: a self that has the courage to see and appreciate all parts of you; and, a love that trusts the being-to-becoming journey as a magical journey that insists on self-mastery.
To belong to your Original Nature is to invest in your purpose.
A baby’s gaze reminds you of your Original Nature’s peaceful belonging, but with NO AWARENESS. And that Original Nature is what you are learning to reclaim as an adult, WITH AWARENESS.
This is life. Self-love is a way of life. Having the discipline to follow delight toward self-love is the way to choose you. And in that choice, you experience belonging for the world… NO CONDITIONS.
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